Dealing With Difficult People

Dealing With Difficult People

 

Some people are pretty easy to get along with and others, how shall we say this – aren’t.

 

There are people who, no matter what you do, just aren’t very pleasant to have as roommates or co-workers or bosses. Since they exist, you need to be able to handle them. Here are some methods for dealing with difficult people.

 

Don’t try to change their minds

 

No matter how much you might think you are a shining example of what every human should be, some people are simply not going to like you. Some people are just going to be rude to you. And some people will be all out mean.

 

You didn’t do anything wrong, it’s not a fundamental flaw in your character, it’s just something that happens, so file these people away in your head as difficult, and move on.

 

There are a couple of things to remember here. One, don’t let their behavior get to you. Two don’t bother wasting your time to correcting their misconceptions. Don’t go out of your way to please these people, or work tirelessly to get on their good side. You’re wasting your effort. If you want to do something nice for someone, pick someone out of the reams of people who already like you.

 

Be secure enough not to need the approval of everyone. Just tolerate the difficult ones, be polite, and move on.  If you’re consistently excellent at what you do, they’ll come around. Or maybe they won’t. But it doesn’t matter because what they think of you isn’t your business.

 

Don’t get trapped in pointless arguments

 

Sometimes difficult people will start arguments for no reason aside from the fact that they like to turn everything into an argument. If you find yourself constantly arguing with certain people learn to disengage. Don’t waste your time or your breath trying to convince to sway them to your viewpoint. You are only allotted so much energy per day. Don’t waste it on pointless, winless endeavors.

 

Don’t be a doormat to them

If the difficult person in your orbit begins to move past being merely a jerk and it turns into straight up harassment, it’s no longer time to not engage. At that point you need to stand up for yourself and let a superior or a person of authority know about inappropriate behaviour.

 

There is a difference between learning to let difficult people’s rudeness roll off you, and allowing yourself to be truly abused by someone because you want to take the high road.

 

Difficult people are going to come into your life. Learn to deal with them and the difficulty will be passing.

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Anything Is Possible

Anything Is Possible

 

For many of us the morning starts off with a stop at Starbucks. It’s become so popular we don’t even think twice about the fact that we’ve somehow morphed from a double double society to a tall, no fat, soy one.

 

As of Today, Howard Schultz former CEO of Starbucks is ranked one of the richest people in the United States, but he certainly didn’t start out rich. On the contrary, he started at the other end of the money spectrum.

 

An athletic scholarship got Howard into Northern Michigan University where he received a bachelor’s degree in communications. From there he worked as a salesman for Xerox and then general manager of a Swedish drip coffee maker manufacturer.

 

While working in that job Howard visited a new coffee coffee-bean store in Seattle, called Starbucks and became intrigued. A year later he joined Starbucks as Director of Marketing. It was his idea to switch from selling just regular coffee and tea to espresso beverages. The story however, doesn’t fast forward from there to Howard becoming a billionaire several years later.

 

The original owners of Starbucks didn’t want to go into the restaurant business. Because Howard saw such potential in his idea he left Starbucks and went to work on securing funds to open up the chain of coffee houses as he imagined they could work. After opening up his own coffee shop he was eventually able to buy the original Starbucks location from the original owners. From there the rest is, as they say, history.

 

Howard Shultz had an idea about how he could change the coffee chain industry. He was so passionate and sure of his idea he pushed it forward past naysayers and less forward-thinking colleagues.

 

Howard Schultz believes that by surrounding yourself with people who share a passionate commitment around a common purpose, anything is possible. He was right!

Want A Stronger Brain?

Want A Stronger Brain?

 

How smart are you? Find out! All over the Internet you see invitations for tests to find out your IQ. While we were in school we slotted people into categories, the smart ones, the jocks, the dungeons and dragons players. It seemed like each of us was born with a certain level of intelligence and that was that. How smart you are is luck of the draw and you just have to play the hand you’re dealt. But it turns out that’s not actually true.

As the article, Using Brain Plasticity to Supercharge Your Brain from Double Wood Supplements states, “With the right circumstances, the power of brain plasticity can help adult minds grow. Although certain brain functions decay with age, people can tap into plasticity and refresh the brain.”

There are things each of us can do that will help increase our brain power. Like physical exercise makes your body stronger, mental exercises can increase the strength and flexibility of your mind. They help create new pathways in the brain, keep it stimulated and increase neuroplasticity.

The best part is, those mental calisthenics can be tons of fun. Here are five examples:

 

Read

Not only does reading transport you to other worlds with the pure joy of story, it also stimulates you mentally, helps improve your memory, strengthens analytical thinking skills, boosts your ability to focus and concentrate and reduces stress. Reading can boost your brain power.

 

Play games

They say all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy. It doesn’t do his brain any favors either. Crossword puzzles, Sudoku, riddles, word games, board games, card games, video games, all of them help us see things in different ways, make cognitive leaps, and see new patterns, all of which leads to increased neuroplasticity.

 

Make music

While listening to music your brain is busy processing the sound, listening for melodies and rhythms, noticing all the elements that make up the music, all without your conscious involvement. It’s light brain fun. However when you actually play an instrument your brain goes in for heavy lifting, processing information from different areas including visual, auditory and motor cortices. Benefits of playing an instrument include increases in creativity, fine motor skills, analytical and language skills.

 

Exercise

Exercise stimulates the growth of new neuronal connections. Increased oxygenation to the brain during exercise can help boost memory function, learning and the ability for abstract reasoning.  Physical exercise helps build brains.

 

Learn another language

Learning another language helps your brain grow.

 

If that’s not enough to get you signed up with duolingo, there are a few more benefits. It will help you boost your memory, increase your attention and give you a cognitive boost as you assess situations from the perspectives of different languages.

 

A bit of light exercise followed by a good book and board games with the family, topped off with a song you learned on the guitar after mastering the language of music.  Superfood for the brain.

 

The Benefits of A Personal Website

The Benefits of A Personal Website

 

In today’s digital world, it’s practically required to have your own website, no matter what you do. Here are a few reasons why.

 

Google

The first thing everyone will do after they meet you is Google you. Do you want the first thing they see to be your boring Facebook page or a great website?

 

A website creates a personal brand. It shows you are organized, driven, and thought ahead enough to create a professional online presence. It determines the first impression you make online.

 

A better online resume

A regular resume is very dry and to the point. A website can be like a resume, a cover letter, and more bundled into one. It can detail your personal background, your skills and examples of your work.

 

It can showcase so much more about you than anything else you can hand off to an employer.

 

Find new opportunities

Depending on what you do, your website can also help you find clients. Websites are especially important for people who do freelance work.

 

People who would never have otherwise found you, may find your service through your website and make contact.

 

Networking tool

One last thing. A website can also be a kind of networking tool. If you do a great job at one place, they may send your website to a friend when they recommend you.

 

The bottom line is, a website is an easy way to bundle all your skills and your personality into one place that can be easily shared and viewed by anyone. They take a little bit of time and money to create and maintain, but they pay for themselves with their usefulness.

Gratitude Is The Parent Of All Virtues

Gratitude Is The Parent Of All Virtues

 

How much of a factor does gratitude play in your life? You probably say thank you when someone opens a door for you or when someone overtly goes out of their way to do something nice.

 

Gratitude builds on itself

Did you know the more gratitude you bring into your life, the more reasons you’ll find to be grateful? The more you notice the good things, the better you’ll feel. The happier you feel, the more likely you’ll be willing to go that extra mile to achieve the success you’re after. That’s because by actually noticing and acknowledging the good things in your life you are focusing your attention on the good and in the process taking your attention away from the negatives. Do it enough and you can actually rewire your brain to pay more attention to what’s good than to what’s bad.

 

Pay it forward

It’s easy to remember to feel grateful when an overt reason is staring you in the face. The key to deep gratitude is to spend some time each day finding reasons to be grateful. We don’t mean you should make up reasons to be grateful, we mean to actually take five or ten minutes at the end of each day to think back and recognize where the good was and who helped bring about that good. After you’ve recognized what you’re grateful for go ahead and let people know. Spread the gratitude.

 

Sometimes the difference between a mediocre day and a great day is a change of perspective. From a grateful perspective every day is better. Gratitude truly is the parent of all virtues.

Happiness First, Success Second

Happiness First, Success Second

So many of us are working all out to create the success we’re after. In the process we’re also creating stress for ourselves, setting crazy goals, and admonishing ourselves for our perceived failures. All because we believe that once we’re successful we will also finally be happy.

In the inspiring Ted Talk, The Happy Secret To Better Work, psychologist Shawn Archer argues we’ve got it all backwards. We need to start with happiness. Increased productivity and success will follow.

Shawn doesn’t just talk about trying to be happier, he gives concrete examples of ways each of us can retrain our brains to create happier brains.