Happy Holidays

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As always, the winding down year came with ups and downs, but as it comes to a close, and we think back on all that happened, it is the good things we should choose to focus on. The kindnesses we received and and ones we gave. Beautiful moments that shone through like the sun catching rainbow sparkles on fresh fallen snow. And joys sprinkled throughout.

Most likely there were people who helped you during the year, who offered support or guidance or an introduction to someone you’d been trying to meet. Maybe your boss gave you an opportunity to expand your abilities, or a co-worker offered a ride share while your car was in the shop. You can probably think of hundreds of things that happened through the year that made your days brighter.

Focusing on the positives shines a glow of thanks over the whole year. By bidding the year farewell with a thankful heart and well wishes, we set the tone for the one to come.

Until we meet again in the upcoming year, the joys of the season to all from all of us to all of you.

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Afraid To Ask?

Afraid To Ask?

 

How often have you needed help or advice but refrained from asking? What stops you? The fear of rejection? Embarrassment? The conviction that the best way to do something is to do it yourself?

 

If help is easily given, most people are more than willing to offer it. More than that they enjoy helping when and where they can because help is a cycle. I help you, you help me. We all grow and succeed by helping each other.

 

Amanda Palmer is a self proclaimed “Rock Star” who made it pretty big in the indie scene when she raised over a million dollars in under a month from her fanbase of about

20,000 people. She attributes her success to being an excellent asker.

 

 

Amanda Palmer’s Ted Talk, “The Art of Asking,” is about the value of asking for help, and how the person helping you is actually repaid in how good it feels to help another person. She also wrote a book about the same topic.

 

According to Amanda, asking and giving is a never ending cycle. Askers are the best givers because they know what it’s like the be on the other side. And if they can, people genuinely want to give. The problem is so many of us have a problem with asking.

 

We don’t like asking for help or for money because it makes us feel guilty or ashamed for needing the help. But it shouldn’t. Because the day will come when someone will ask you and it’s the best feeling in the world to be able to return the favor to someone else.

 

Career related asking

One of the best things you can do as far as your career is concerned is to learn to ask. Ask people for help if you’re confused, don’t just blindly hope for the best. If you’re looking to learn something new or want to try something different, ask someone who’s already successful in that field if they’ll mentor you. If you need someone to take your shift, ask them. If you need to borrow a little money from a friend, just ask.

 

As long as you don’t abuse the asking privilege more often than not you’ll find the answer is “yes”. No one will think less of you for asking. We all need help sometimes. And we’re all in the position to provide help sometimes.

 

Positive physical effects of asking

On a more scientific note, asking actually has awesome effects on the brain. If you want someone to like you more, all you have to do is ask them for a small favor. Even if

they don’t like you, they’ll likely do it to not be a jerk.

 

Once they do it, their brain assumes they must like you, otherwise they wouldn’t be doing you this favor. So, they, in turn, like you better.

 

Asking and helping create bonding relationships

Asking and helping bonds people together. We love to help each other. It’s in our nature. We evolved to want to make sure everyone is okay. It makes all of us feel safe and secure and good about ourselves and each other.

 

 

So, next time you need help, don’t just push through it yourself. Give yourself a little nudge and ask. The worst they can say is no.

If You Build It…

If You Build It...

 

If you ask an artist to draw something they will either look for a reference to model off or visualize it in their head before they begin.

 

If you want to move ahead in your career, you’d do well to look at it like an artist. It is said, nothing comes from nothing. That’s why it’s so important to give yourself something to strive for.  Have a vision of your destination before you set out on your journey.

 

Visualize your future life

Picture yourself where you want to be in five years. Picture it in as much detail as you can. Where do you live? What do you do? What’s your income? What have you accomplished?

 

Don’t just take two seconds out of you day to think about it, picture it. Collect images if you need to. Really see yourself in that situation.  It might sound silly, but this visual you create and refer to, can help you create that career you’re trying to build. Visualization is something they tell athletes to do all the time. That’s because an athlete is much more likely to cross that finish line if they’ve already seen themselves doing it first.

 

Be specific

It’s the details that will keep get you motivated and help you stay the course. You don’t want to use vague ideas like, “I want to make more money in 5 years.” You want something much more tangible. Visualize what you will be wearing, the car you will be driving, the people you will be associating with in your new circumstances. Make it as real as you possibly can.

 

Be realistic

If your visualizations are completely outside the realm of possibility then this whole exercise is a waste of time. If you’re not likely to be living in a mansion with your own personal butler in the next five years then that visualization is nothing more than a daydream.

 

You want your visualization to be realistic and genuinely within your grasp. That way it will inspire you to keep striving and motivate you to become the person you are so busy  imagining you already are.

Choosing Courage – Motivation Monday

Choosing Courage - Motivational Monday

 

Queen Elizabeth has been on the throne so long, most people don’t remember a time when she wasn’t queen of the United Kingdom. In February 2018, it will be sixty-six years since her coronation. But sixty-six years isn’t the extent of her public service. Prior to becoming Queen, Elizabeth was heir presumptive. In that capacity she was already undertaking public duties during the Second World War.

 

During Elizabeth’s reign, the world has seen unimaginable triumph, like a probe from earth landing on an asteroid flying through space, then sending information back home. It’s also seen unbelievable devastation resulting from destruction both natural and human-made.

 

The majority of us only have our own lives and those of our families to reign over. From that limited perspective, we also face difficulties and triumphs. It’s easy to accept triumph, but what do we do when courage is called for? What we do when things are difficult is what defines us and our futures. We are not only courageous in life and death situations. It takes courage to keep trying in the face of adversity. To get up again after falling down. To say yes when everyone around you is saying no.

 

When you feel like the winds pushing against you are too strong and you’d rather just give up and simply let your goals blow over you, remember, from the perspective of one who’s seen everything, the courageous do not lie down and accept defeat. Rather, they push against that defeat with even more determination.

 

Following in the footsteps of success

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All of us want success. What if we told you there was a shortcut to where you’re going? It’s not about less work or thinking positive thoughts. It’s about learning from people who’ve already achieved great success. By listening to what they say, implementing their advice, learning from them you can save yourself countless hours of trial and error. Check out these thought leaders you should be following from Inc. and set your course for great things!

The Problem Is Not The Problem

The Problem Is Not The Problem

 

Problems get in the way of us doing things. They create stumbling blocks or insurmountable mountains. They make us feel like we can never get where we need to go.

 

It’s true if you wait for a problem to go away or hope it will go away or decide there’s nothing you can do about it and give up, then yes, the problem will definitely stop you from achieving your goal.

 

However, what if you decided to think of each problem as an opportunity. An opportunity to try a different approach. To talk to different people. To learn something new.

 

So often things that start out as problems turn out to be inspirations. They lead to things and situations that are better than our original plan.

 

Life and how you feel about it and what you get out of it are all a matter of perspective. When you run into a problem. Instead of worrying about how you’re going to get around it, search for the opportunity buried inside it. You might find buried treasure.