Do You Feel Like You’re Suffering From Imposter Syndrome?

Do You Feel Like You're Suffering From Imposter Syndrome?

Ever feel like you really are not qualified for the job you’re in, or the new responsibilities you’ve been given? There’s a good chance what you’re feeling is unjustified and you’re suffering from imposter syndrome.

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How Do You Describe Yourself?

Describing Yourself During An Interview

They will ask to ask you about your experience during the job interview. They’ll ask you why you want this job in particular. And they will ask you to describe yourself. Those questions are guaranteed.

 

Don’t wing it

You’ve lived with yourself your whole life. You might think you have a pretty good handle on how you will describe yourself and decide to wing it. Winging it is the worst thing you can do. If you’re not prepared, you’re as likely as not to sound like a robot rattling off a list of attributes. A robot that sounds like just about every other robot going through a similar list. I’m hard working, punctual and I’m good with numbers. Or you might go off on a tangent, without explaining exactly how this ability you have to tame numbers saved your last employer thousands of dollars over the past three months.

 

Make a list

Do yourself a favor and make a list of short descriptive sentences you would use to express what you’re like both personally and professionally.  Show off your skills, what people like about you, what they’re impressed by. Illustrate how those skills made a difference in other people’s lives. Now find the adjectives that reflect those sentences.

 

Meticulous could be an example. An adjective like meticulous indicates an attention to detail to the hiring manager. That you care about the details and are not one to sit back and let someone else do all the heavy lifting. Give an example of how your meticulousness caught a small mistake before it became a big one. Or ensured that the job got done right -the first time.

 

Have five examples ready

 

Come to the interview prepared with five strong adjectives that describe you, the impact you have had in other workplaces and what you can bring to this new one. Great examples are team player, imaginative and driven.

 

The last thing you want to happen is to have all great ways of describing yourself pop into your head on the trip home. By taking this question seriously before ever stepping into the interview you can ensure the interviewer sees you as the fighter you are.

Sales Killers

Sales Killers

Talking too much

You may believe it’s necessary to go on at length about the benefits and features of the product or service you’re selling. If you spend too much time talking without listening then you run the risk of creating the impression that you care more about your product than the person you’re speaking to.

 

Instead you want to get the person to talk about themselves and their situation so you can determine the best way of directing the discussion.

 

You may think piling on facts is a great way of putting your product or service in the best light but unless the information is relevant to the person you’re speaking to, rather than enhancing your presentation it detracts. Sales killers come in the form of too much talk.

Letting the person you’re speaking to have control of the conversation

The best way to take control of the conversation is by asking questions. By asking the right questions You get to know the person better, and are better able to direct them towards the conversation you want to have. Your answers to the questions you finally want to ask will establish you as an expert in regards to your product or service.

 

One size fits all sales pitch

The second you go into a standard sales pitch that you’ve perfected for anyone, you’ve already lost the vast majority of individuals. Standardized pitches are sales killers. Find out about the person you’re speaking to then tailor what you say to them.

 

Not being prepared

Always have everything you need to complete your presentation. You should never have to scramble for information regarding pricing, sample information, or answers to questions that may come up. Create a checklist of everything you need and ensure you have it at the start of each day. Even if you’ve talked about a product a thousand times, every time you talk about it with a new person you’re making a first impression all over again. Make it a great one!

 

Not asking for the sale

At the end of your presentation you always need to ask for some sort of commitment from the person you’re speaking to. Don’t worry about coming across as pushy, simply finish off in the confident, friendly way you’ve conducted the rest of your presentation.

Command The Attention Of The World

Command The Attention Of The World

 

At the height of his career, George Washington Carver was a professor at Tuskegee Institute where he had gained fame and recognition for the soil rotation techniques he developed. His research helped poor farmers improve their diets and the yield of their crops. He met with three American Presidents; Theodore Roosevelt, Calvin Coolidge and Franklin Roosevelt and spent three weeks tutoring the Prince of Sweden. In 1916 he was one of but a handful of Americans to be made a member of the Royal Society of Arts in England. Impressive as all these accomplishments are, they become almost unfathomable when you realize that George Washington Carver was born a slave in the 1860s.

 

Change for the better is within the realm of everyone

Sometimes you might think people who rise to success have connections or were born in circumstances that made the rise easy, but the truth is, the possibility to actually change the world and make a difference in the lives of others is within the realm of every one of us. As George Washington Carver says, It’s about doing common things in life in an uncommon way. Through his life work he was able to command the attention of the world!

 

So if you know you have the ability to change the world in some way, what does that say about your ability to change the circumstances of your life?

 

Don’t settle for common

If most people you know are content to do the bare minimum to maintain their lifestyle, put in their eight hours a day during the week, party the weekend away, then that’s common.

 

If you want to walk along with the common pack that’s fine, but if you want better for yourself then you have to separate yourself from the common. Run ahead with your thoughts and your actions and your beliefs about what’s possible. The world will take notice.

Put Procrastination In Its Place

Put Procrastination In Its Place

 

Unless you’re some sort of mental warrior you’ve probably found yourself dealing the procrastination issues from time to time. (For some the problem runs more along the lines of – all the time.) Whether you’re a sometimes procrastinator or an always procrastinator there are a few things you can do to put procrastination in its place.

 

Start with the hard stuff

You may find that the hardest thing on your to-do list is the thing that gets pushed forward day after day. That hard thing is probably one of the things at the root of your current bout of procrastination, so get it out of the way first. Tackle the hardest thing first thing in the morning when you have the most energy and brain power. Meet the enemy head on so procrastination can’t hide behind it. Even if you don’t finish that’s okay. Getting started on it is important.

 

The Zeigarnik effect has shown that starting a task and leaving it unfinished causes your brain to keep on working on the task even after you’ve stopped giving it your full attention. That means when you get back to it (first thing the next day) you’ll have an easier time of it because your brain never completely let it go. You won’t even have to battle so hard against procrastination!

 

Remind yourself how capable you are

You have succeeded at many things before. Remind yourself how capable you truly are. Take a couple of minutes to sit with your breath. Full deep breaths where you feel past successes in your body.

 

Turn your phone off

Give yourself dedicated time without interruptions. Turn your phone off. Don’t check your email. Have a block of dedicated time where the only thing you are going to think about is the task at hand. (Our natural body rhythms work on 90 minute cycles that’s an deal amount of time to give yourself.)

 

Challenge yourself

It may sound crazy to make the task even harder than it is, but sometimes if you have to work harder at something it forces your attention and makes it easier to concentrate on what you’re doing and stick with it!

Breaking The Bonds of Worry

Breaking The Bonds of Worry

 

Like so many other things, worry can be good in small amounts, but disastrous when left unchecked.

 

When you realize you’ve done something wrong or someone isn’t doing what they’re supposed to do, or something is going wrong, you might get worried on the way to getting the situation rectified. A little worry is good. It can get the ball rolling by spurring you into change mode.  Too much worry leads to sleepless nights, illness and can often be paralyzing.

 

In the words of Erma Bombeck, “Worry is like a rocking chair: it gives you something to do, but it never gets you anywhere.”

 

When you’re stuck in a worry cycle things feel out of control. Once you take steps to change the situation you regain that control.

 

So, once worry has done its job, identifying that there is a problem, it’s time to move on to the words of the Dali Lama, “If a problem is fixable, if a situation is such that you can do something about it, then there is no need to worry. If it’s not fixable, then there is no help in worrying. There is no benefit in worrying whatsoever.”

 

Easy for the Dali Lama to say. Simply deciding to stop worrying isn’t as easy as it sounds. We’re conditioned to worry. We’re hit by worrying news day in and day out on our newsfeeds, on every screen we turn to, in the newspapers, on TV. It seems like there’s always one threat or another waiting around the corner, so when it comes to our personal and professional lives we’re already primed to worry about those too. However, as wise Erma points out, as occupying as worrying can be, it will never of itself solve anything. Here are a few tips to help you vacate that chair:

 

Identify the problem

Sometimes we simply feel a general sense of unease about a situation. If you don’t know what the problem is, work on identifying it. If you do know the cause of the problem, try and drill past generalities down to specifics. For example if you’re worried someone on your team isn’t pulling their weight try to figure out exactly why you feel that way. Write down examples of the problem. Shave it down to the core.

 

Take action

Now that you know precisely what’s bothering you, take tangible steps to change it. Worrying holds on to the problem. Taking steps to change it, helps you release it.

 

Worst case scenario

Our imaginations often jump from problem directly to worst case scenario outcomes. Since worst case is by definition the worst case, let yourself imagine it. Now come up with a contingency plan. You probably won’t need it, but having something in place can ally your worries.

 

Release it

Once you’ve done everything you can to change the situation, let it go. Things will unfold on their own from there whether you wear grooves into the floor with the constant rocking of your chair or whether you go out for a walk in the sun. So you might as well enjoy the sun! Remember, life isn’t made for sitting around worrying, it’s made for taking charge action!

 

Other ways to release worry can include meditating and staying hydrated. Here’s a list of helpful worry releasing ideas from tiny buddah