When It’s Time To Stop The Job Search

When It's Time To Stop The Job Search

When a job search goes on for too long it’s easy to get discouraged and stressed out. One of the most important things you can do during this time is to stop hunting.


We’re not actually saying to stop altogether. Rather spend some dedicated time every day doing things that have absolutely nothing to do with your job search. A full mental and physical break from it.


Mentally elsewhere

One of the best places to go when you want to get mentally elsewhere is – nowhere. Ten or fifteen minutes of meditation a day will do wonders to recharge your energy and motivation. Among other things, Research shows that meditation may reduce cortisol (the stress hormone) levels, reduce anxiety, increase attention span, and enhance self-awareness.


A lot of benefits to be gained through doing essentially nothing! If doing nothing all on  your own isn’t exactly in your wheelhouse there are all kinds of amazing apps available to help guide you through the mental recharge like Calm and Headspace.


Give yourself reasons to be happy

Being out of work is not likely adding anything to the happiness factor in your life. It’s okay to feel down about your employment situation, but you need to ensure frustration and unhappiness aren’t the only emotions of your days. That’s why you need to carve out happy times every day. That might mean going for a walk outside past some beautiful tress or plants. Or reading a book by your favorite author. Maybe baking cookies is your thing.


You can’t just expect to bump into a happy time, you need to actually make space for it every day. Make a list of things that bring you joy and choose to do at least one a day. When you are engaged in that happy activity, be there fully. Don’t think about your job hunt at all. Enjoy the smell of cookies wafting through your home.


Remember the positives

Facts: You don’t have a job and you are having trouble finding one. When there’s a negative situation in our lives it’s easy to latch onto that and dwell. If you let it, your negative mood will overshadow the positives in your life That’s why it’s so important to remember the positives every day. What do you have? Do you have a loving partner? Your health? Did a neighbor shovel your drive after the last snowstorm? Choose a time every day to write down three things you are grateful for. Look at your list, breathe into it and fully embrace it. There are things to be thankful for every single day. Acknowledge them.


Your job search will eventually end whether you have a negative mindset during the process or a positive one. You get to choose.

How Much Love Do You Think You Deserve?

How Much Love Do You Think You Deserve?

What do you do when someone gives you a compliment? Accept it graciously? Take it to heart and believe yourself worthy of the praise? Mumble something about not deserving it? Nod your head and tell yourself the person is just being nice or doesn’t really know what they’re talking about?


How you feel about yourself

The fact is, no matter how sincere the compliment, your capacity to accept it is determined by how you feel about yourself. If you feel worthy of praise and love then you will accept what is given to you at face value. If, however you feel inadequate then no amount of validation will help you feel better about yourself.


Self compliments

No matter what, every single one of us is deserving of love and encouragement. In the Huffpost article, The Scary Reason You Can’t Accept A Compliment they say, “You’re bad at taking compliments because you’re out of practice; you never compliment YOURSELF.”


Quiet your inner monologue for a while and write think about some of the things that make you special. You can frame your compliment to yourself as, “I love myself because,”. Don’t think about reasons for anyone else to love you. This is a compliment from you to you. What makes you unique? Why are you a good person? What makes you proud of?


“I love myself because I care deeply about other people and this planet we share.”


“I am really good at making small children laugh.”


Don’t worry, no one else is listening. This is a small gift you are giving yourself. A little reminder that YES you are worthy of love and attention for these reasons.


Deserving of love

Every one of us deserves love. If you have trouble accepting it, start by finding one small part of yourself to love. Open door a crack and the light will shine in!

Solid Questions To Finish Your Job Interview

Solid Questions To Finish Your Job Interview

Your job interview is coming to an end. Everything has gone well so far. You did your research on the company. You answered their questions confidently, you were enthusiastic and you can already see yourself working there. Now they want to know your questions.


When they ask if you have any questions they are not just being polite and rounding off the interview, they are gauging how invested you are in the job. They are seeing how well you listened to the questions they asked you and how you integrated them into your perception of the job.


Even if all your questions about the company and the position have already been answered, you still don’t say “No,”. It makes you sound uninterested and unmotivated. The correct answer is always, “Yes.”  If you do come up with specific questions to ask during the interview that’s great, start with those.


But you can’t guarantee that will happen so it’s important to come prepared with questions to ask.


Demonstrate enthusiasm

“Where do you see the company in the next few years?”
“What do you enjoy most about working here?”

Show you are interested in a long term relationship

“Are there opportunities for training with the company?”

“What are the prospects for growth in this position?”

“What is the next step for someone successful in this position?”


Clarify their expectations

“How will my performance be measured?”

“What is the most important aspect of this job?”

“What are the short-term/long-term goals for this position?”


Find out what you can expect

“When do you expect to make a hiring decision?”

“What are the next steps in the interview process?”


There are all sorts of things you can ask, but there are also a few topics to avoid. Those include questions about salary, benefits, perks, and vacation time. Those types of questions send the message that you are more interested in what you’re going to get than what you’re going to give. The appropriate time for those is once you have an offer.



If you’d still like a few more options, check out this list of the 30 best questions to ask the interviewer from Balance Careers.

Follow Up Affirmations For Success With Actions

Follow Up Affirmations For Success With Actions

You wake up every morning, look in the mirror and say, “I am going to be successful.” Well affirmations are all well and good, but saying you want to be successful without action to back it up, will be about as helpful as saying you want to lose weight while simultaneously stuffing a donut into your mouth.


Specific goals

If you are not striving to accomplish something every single day then you’re probably just going to let the day determine what happens. You’ll get caught up with being mad about getting caught in traffic. You’ll get involved with the gossip floating around the office. You’ll let yourself get sucked into watching yet another episode on whatever’s streaming on Netflix. Without goals you are likely to end up going wherever the wind blows. However if you’re working towards a specific goal every single day then you are going to take charge of where you focus your attention and your energies.


Once you do achieve a goal, don’t climb up to the nearest rooftop to start crowing about it. Create another goal. And write it down. Keep yourself accountable.


Strong people skills

You may be able to spend a day alone doing your own thing or even a few days, but eventually you’re going to have to come out of hiding and get into the groove with other people. Even novelists the most I need alone time! group of all, eventually have to come out and interact with their publisher and fans at large. Introverts and extroverts alike can develop people skills. The easiest way to start is to get good at asking people questions and giving them your full attention when they answer. People with strong people skills realize that everyone wants to be heard.



Stay enrolled in the school of life

Always keep your mind engaged. Whether that means learning new skills for your career, taking cooking classes an evening a week, or language courses online, it’s important to keep yourself challenged. Ideally you want to continually create a new and improved version of you.


A healthy body to go with your sharp mind

While you’re busy setting goals and learning new things and developing strong people skills you might inadvertently forget to take care of yourself, and that would be a mistake. You need a healthy body to carry that great mind of yours around in. You may not realize it but some of your greatest ideas will come to you when you are doing something entirely unrelated, like walking or riding a bike or running on a treadmill. Whenever you exercise your body you are also exercising your mind. Check out how Regular exercise changes the brain to improve memory, thinking skills from Harvard Health Publications




Less thinking, more doing

We all love to make plans for our future and that’s great. Like we said earlier, having clear, specific goals are one of the cornerstones of our success. The problem comes when we start spending more time thinking about our goals or our future than actually doing anything to concrete to start achieving them. The longer you think about something without actually doing anything to back your thoughts up, the harder it is to get going. Procrastination leads to more procrastination. Doing leads to more doing. You need to learn to be your own referee.


Push yourself even when you don’t want to get go. Get out of bed no matter how cosy it is under the covers. Get up every time you fall down without wasting inordinate amounts of time lamenting over what wasn’t. Success is going to hear you loud and clear.

Out of Proportion Moments

Out of Proportion Moments

Shifting sands of time

How many times have you been kept up all night because of something you said or did in a moment? For me, it’s more times than I can remember.


However, fast forward a little and whatever it was that tied me into such sleepless knots ends up lost to the sands of time.


Variable scale of significance

How often do you feel like you are in the absolutely worst situation of your entire life? Again, for me, too many to keep track of.


Without the great balancer of time to put things into perspective it is easy for us to get pulled into the drama of the moment. To hear the Chicken Little running around inside our heads screaming about the falling sky and believe it.


There sometimes are truly life changing moments. But in general the drama of the moment only feels significant because it is the moment you are then living.


Trapped in a moment

When you have an argument with a friend or associate, or you mess up at work, or you say exactly the wrong thing to a person you are trying to impress it is easy to get trapped in the moment.


You refer to it over and over in your head. It gets endlessly rewound and played  differently in your head as you lament all the things you didn’t say or do.


When you find yourself in an endless loop of regret, take a deep breath. Remind yourself, in the big picture, this mountain is nothing more than a mole hill. In the bigger picture it will become so insignificant as to become invisible.


The moment you are in is a microscope that makes everything seem way bigger than it is. When you find your eye glued to the lens, lift your head and remind yourself your life is more than this moment.

“Why Did You Leave Your Previous Job?”

“Why Did You Leave Your Previous Job?”

There are all kinds of reasons to leave a job. A better opportunity comes along. You’re looking for a better opportunity. You’re not happy with the direction the company’s going. You want to take your life in a different direction. The list goes on and on. Eventually you will find yourself explaining the reasons for why you left or why you are leaving your current job to a prospective employer.

They will want to know several things about why you left/are leaving. Did you leave to pursue something else? Were you just tired of your job? Did you leave voluntarily? Did you leave on good terms? What are your work values?

Remember your prospective employer is looking for someone who’s going be loyal and responsible. Ensure your answer demonstrates integrity and forward thinking.

Professional growth

Maybe you feel like you’ve gone as far as you can in your present situation. You are looking for more challenges, or more responsibility. In that case, talk about how you contributed to your current organization (with quantifiable examples) and how you excited you are to learn and grow in this new position.

“I’ve been in my present job for the past four years. I became a department lead after fourteen months and helped implement a new distribution process that increased the speed of product delivery by 10%. I’ve been department manager for the last year. As much as I enjoy my job and the people I work with, I feel like I’ve learned everything I can in my current position and am ready to take on new challenges. The job you are offering appeals to me because of the scope of your operations.”

Always make it about moving toward a better opportunity. Keep your answer positive. Sometimes your situation is a little more negative, like your current position is being eliminated or the company is going out of business. It’s still important to stay positive in your answer. Talk about your successes and accomplishments and then briefly say that due to unfortunate economic downturn the company had to downsize. Downsizing is something everyone can relate to, especially if you were not the only person affected.

Change of direction

You have re-evaluated your present circumstances and have decided it’s time to change direction. Your life goals or career goals have changed and you are excited to pursue a new direction. Make sure you explain how this new opportunity is a good fit with your goals and how you can successfully use your skills in this new job.

Always stay positive

You may actually have negative reasons for leaving a job, like problems with management personality or style. You simply don’t like the job or were passed over for promotion too many times. No matter how negative your experience was, focus on what was positive. What you learned, what you contributed and move on to growth opportunities.

What Separates Inspired, Inspiring Leaders From Uninspired Ones?

What Separates Inspired, Inspiring Leaders From Uninspired Ones?

Some leaders have an inspired, inspiring touch. People are excited to be on their team. They get the most out of all their people because their people want to please. While other people are leaders in name only. With people only grudgingly doing as they ask, mostly out of a sense of obligation rather than any real desire to follow.


One size does not fit all  

Strong leaders know that different people respond to different things so they don’t have a one size fits all way of dealing with their people. They treat each person on their team as an individual with unique skills and aptitudes. Some people prefer to be put into a competitive environment, some like working in groups, some prefer personal challenges. Successful leaders play up to the strengths and dispositions of the people on their team.


Gratitude expressed

People do their jobs because that’s what they are there to do. That doesn’t mean they don’t feel proud of their accomplishments, or that they wouldn’t appreciate acknowledgement for their efforts. Expressed gratitude goes a long way toward making people feel appreciated. When a person feels appreciated they will put in even more effort – because it makes them feel good! Appreciating someone’s efforts creates a feedback loop of great work.


Strong chain of command

If on the other hand someone isn’t doing a great job it’s important to express that too. Great leaders stay on top of the progress of everyone on their team. We all know a chain is only as strong as its weakest link. By catching problems early on and remedying issues before they turn into big issues, great leaders create a strong chain of command.


Set achievable goals

As a leader you might have some pretty big goals. Big goals can take a long time to accomplish and over the long haul people may lose energy and enthusiasm. The key to keeping people motivated is setting smaller achievable goals along the way. Give people the opportunity to make a goal and to excel. Give them a reason to celebrate a job well done!


Set an example

If you want people to come in early or work extra hours or take on challenging new projects, try things they’ve never tried before, the best way to inspire them is to set the example yourself. Let them see you striving. Let them see you fail. A great leader doesn’t have to be perfect at everything they do. They need to inspire people to do their best. The best way to do that is by being the example they want others to emulate.