Taking Some of the Difficulty Out of Difficult People

Taking Some of the Difficulty Out of Difficult People

No matter what industry you’re in, even if you’ve been living on some remote island where everyone is uncannily easy to get along with, eventually a stow away is going to arrive on a boat dropping off supplies, and that stowaway is going to be one. A dreaded difficult person. And now they’re your co-worker.

 

What do you do when you work with someone who just gets right under your skin day in and day out? Do you imagine punching them in the nose right in front of the whole staff? That’s what the monkey part of your brain might want, but the more evolved, career driven part of your brain has other solutions.

 

Give them your respect

No matter how difficult the situation or the person don’t give in to the temptation of respond with like. Getting into the mud with them will only make you both dirty. If they are sending out negativity send back self-respect and dignity.

In truth, you don’t know what else is going on with them. Something rotten could be going on in some aspect of their life you don’t know about. Listen to what they have to say and focus on that rather than focusing on your next rebuttal.

 

Don’t tell them to calm down

Telling someone who is already upset to calm down and be quiet will generally have the opposite result. Ask them to explain the problem better so you have a better understanding of the underlying issues.

 

Don’t try and diffuse the situation with humor

A joke can often lighten a situation, but if a person is already off on a rant, they will take your attempts at diffusing the situation as evidence that you do not take what they’re saying seriously.

 

Don’t take it personally

Remember this is about them, not about you. Don’t get angry or try to convince them of anything. Let them have their say and do whatever you need to do in order to end the interaction. Whether that means putting a quick end to a conversation or finishing up a project, just get it over with. The longer you linger on the “augh I hate you” factor, the more you will get dragged into it and the more difficult it will all become. Learn to let it roll off your back like water on a duck.

 

Limit contact

If the job is ongoing and communication with them is constant, set limits on how much they are able to contact you.

Say something like, “Thanks for all the advice Barbara. Just so you know, I’m taking on some extra work so I’ll only be available from 1 – 3”.

There will always be difficult people in and out of your life. Make your interactions with them a whole lot smoother by creating strategies for dealing with them in advance.

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Internships – A Great Way to Get Experience

Internships - A Great Way to Get Experience

Whether you’re looking for experience to fill out your resume, or you’re interested in learning more about a particular field or company, internships are an outstanding way to learn, make connections and grow as a person and a professional.

 

Check out these eleven awesome internship opportunities from The Muse.

Looking For A Job Where You Can Grow?

Looking For A Job Where You Can Grow?

Never Stop Learning sign

 

Some people are just looking for a job where they can do their thing, go home and pursue other interests outside of work. Others are looking for something a little more challenging. Work where they can continue to learn and expand on their knowledge base.

 

If you’re into working for a company where you can grow, personally and professionally, check out 26 Companies Where You Never Stop Learning from The Muse.

Life and Work Stressing You Out?

Life and Work Stressing You Out?

 

When life is stressing you out and you feel like you’re spinning out of control, you can turn to neuroscience  for some help.

 

We’ve all heard the saying,  music helps soothe the savage beast. It turns out the right music can also help soothe the stressed out soul.

 

This playlist from Inc will “Both stir your soul and clam your nervous system.”

 

 

Time To Relax

 

Time To Relax

 

All of us are always hearing that to get ahead we need to work harder. If we put in more effort we will finally achieve our goals. But did you know that there comes a point when all that hard work stops being helpful?  That the most helpful thing you can do is relax?

 

Check out this article about working less to work better from the Atlantic detailing why we all sometimes need to take a break.

Job Fact Friday: World Cup Jobs

This year’s 2014 World Cup has created over 700,000 permanent and temporary jobs in Brazil. Participants of the country’s Volunteer Programme has also given 18,000 citizens the opportunity to work and assist fans in busy areas during the tournament. These participants will be awarded certificates from the University of Brasilia so they have a chance to improve their resumes, work experience and personal growth.