Keeping Your Confidence
The job search can sometimes be a demoralizing thing. Sometimes despite your best efforts to sell yourself on your resume and cover letter, those documents end up feeling kind of fake. A lot of people find self promotion hard because they don’t usually talk about themselves in such positive ways. Then if they don’t get any response from the applications they send out, they start taking it personally. Keeping your confidence and feeling good enough can be tough.
Don’t Doubt Yourself
Even though you’re likely to face rejection at some point during your job search, the most important thing is to not let it affect how you feel about yourself. As this quote from J.M. Barrie’s Peter Pan suggests, the moment you doubt your abilities, is the moment they start to fail you.
It can be hard to believe in yourself when it seems like the world doesn’t believe in you. Jobs don’t pan out for a hundred different reasons. You need to remember that you absolutely have what it takes and try again.
Also remember there are lots of other job seekers out there who are trying to keep their confidence as well. You’re not alone in the job hunt despite how it sometimes feels.
You Can Fly
Does telling yourself you can fly seem pretty out there? If it does then figure out why. Are your resume and cover letter up to par? Are your skills at their peak? Increase your confidence by ensuring you truly are ready to fly.
Then take off
We all know there are 24 hours in a day. We don’t even have to stop to think about it, but rarely do we think about the minutes. There are 1,440 of them in each day.
A minute may not seem like a lot of time to get things done, but remember that minute that you take out to check something on Facebook as often as not turns into five or ten or thirty minutes of idle cat picture scrolling.
Those extra minutes you decide to stay in bed in the morning, the minutes you spend thinking about doing something rather than doing it, the minutes of staring at the clock or waiting, or playing some mindless game on your phone all add up to the hours of your day.
When the end of each day rolls around and you wonder where the hours have gone, remember they’ve been absorbed by a minute here, and a minute there.
If you want to get things done, if you want to make an impact, give each precious minute the consideration it deserves. By preserving the minutes you are literally giving yourself more hours in the day. More hours to make a positive impact and get things done.
Les Brown has these words for you: It’s Possible.
Everyday we wake up with things that must get done, things we want to get done and things we wish we could get done. What is the most important thing you want to get done today?
When do you plan on doing it? After your coffee? After you’ve finished checking all your emails? After you clear through some stuff left over from yesterday?
If something must get done, then get it done. First. Don’t fret over it. Don’t put it off until later. Get it off your plate first thing.
By doing the most important thing on your to-do list first thing you know that everyday you have accomplished at least one thing you want to accomplish. By starting the day off right, you’ll put yourself in the groove to keep on doing right!
Linebacker Ray Lewis is a man who knows how to win. He took his Ravens to the playoffs over and over again in the 2000s, giving them two Super bowls to show for it. He won defensive player of the year in 2000 and 2003, was selected to the pro-bowl 13 times and won the Super bowl MVP.
Ray Lewis didn’t just win, he worked. In an amazing, inspirational speech to Stanford Basketball players Ray says, “If tomorrow wasn’t promised what would you give for today?”
We get one opportunity in life, one chance to do what we’re going to do and that comes through effort. Everyday is a new day. Every moment is a new moment.
Life isn’t for tomorrow or next week, it’s for today and now and making yourself a champion in your heart and mind at every opportunity you get.
Do you have any projects on the backburner? Things you intend to do? Things you’ve started, but haven’t got around to finishing yet? Things you hope to one day do? How important are those things? How long have they been relegated to the backburner?
The limits for perpetual time
The sun comes up every morning and goes down every night. The predictability of life makes it seem somehow perpetual. If I don’t do this thing today, I can to it tomorrow. If I can’t get to it this week, I will get to it next week. In reality, the only time we ever know we have for sure is right now. This very moment.
Even though it sometimes seems like we have all the time in the world to do those things we mean to do, we really don’t. If we don’t purposefully allot a specific time to a specific task, chances are it will never make it from the backburner to the front burner. Chances are it will never get off the stove.
If you are not doing this thing you want to do now, when are you going to do it? Give a backburner project its moment by scheduling it in. Decide what you are going to do with your time. Don’t plan to do things some time. Plan to do them in specific times.
Consistently move things from the backburner to the front burner and off the stove entirely. Make way for new things. Take charge of your time and keep your life fresh and invigorated.
Use your time wisely. Decide what to do with it.
Bill Nye is everyone’s favorite science guy. Coming from a mechanical engineering background, somewhere along the way Bill realized if he was going to change the world like he wanted to, the best way to do that was to share his passion and knowledge with kids. Combining his passion for science with his love of comedy, Bill Nye became Bill Nye the science guy.
Bill doesn’t just talk about changing the world, he does his best to do his part. In the early 2000s he helped develop a small sundial that’s now included on the Mars Rovers. He is the host of three shows on television, “The 100 Greatest Discoveries,” “The Eyes of Bill Nye,” and “Stuff Happens.” On top of that he regularly fields questions from people around the world for Big Think. He also still finds time to act as the executive director for the Planetary Society.
Be the change
Currently Bill lives in a solar powered house. “When you get an electric bill every 60 days for five bucks, that’s just fun,” he said. “We can do this, we can get this done. But I want you guys to do it better. I want you to change the world.”
Bill is an individual who does a lot because he wants the world to be a better place for all of us. Whether you want change or the whole world or simply your corner of it, you have the capacity to be that change. To make that change.
What happens if you don’t get the job you were going for? Do you stop applying altogether and resign yourself to a jobless life?
What about if your forever partner breaks it off? Do you decide the best course of action is to hole yourself up all alone in a cabin in the woods forever?
Or if you fail the last exam before your degree? Do you walk away and leave the degree unfinished?
Never let your past determine your future
Hopefully you did not decide on a jobless/loveless/degreeless life and realized the only way what happened in the past can stop you from achieving your future, is if you let it.
Of course it’s heartbreaking when things don’t work out the way you want and sometimes it feels like they never will, but as Rafiki says, you always have a choice. “You can either run from it, or learn from it.”
Choose to learn. Make the world your kingdom!