Your relationship with your coworkers is just like any other relationship, takes work, commitment and determination. Just like family, you can’t always choose your coworkers. Some of them might drive you a little crazy, but if you want to succeed you’ll have to figure out how to work with one another. According to Henry Ford, success comes after you have come together, kept together and found a way to work together.
You’ve probably heard of the “honeymoon period” for people in relationships. Everything is great and awesome and everyone likes each other. The same thing happens when someone new is hired, or you start a new job. Things are looking great and you’re getting along with your new coworkers just fine. This is just the beginning. Coming together is arguably the easiest part.
Once that honeymoon period is over, it’ll be harder to keep things running smoothly. Little things your coworkers do that you didn’t notice before will start to wear on your nerves. You might find misunderstandings happen more frequently and that your work suffers as a result. Keeping together means working through these issues and finding resolutions. That’s progress.
Once you’ve found ways to understand one another and support one another then you can start to work together. Working together comes as everyone starts to focus on the common goal of the business. As Henry Ford points out, it’s not an easy stage to get to in a relationship, be it with your coworkers or otherwise. But once you’re there, you’ll find success.
No matter how much we dream about it, or hope for it or cross our fingers, success, neither personal nor professional, is unlikely to just waltz into our lives. When we hear success stories of those around us, it’s easy to focus on the results and not the work that went into it. The only way to find “success” without hard work is by winning the lottery and we all know how likely that is.
However as illustrated by this quote from Arthur L. Williams, Jr. through, diligent, dedicated, hard work, success will find you. Transitioning from the ranks of having very little to the ranks of billionaire, Art Williams knows a few things about hard work and worth it!
Art Williams is a billionaire Insurance Executive who founded Primerica, the largest independent financial services marketing organization in North America, as of 2011. Williams’ start in insurance can be traced back to the moment his father passed away of a heart attack. His father’s life insurance policy left the family under-insured and with little money.
Art’s father had tried to do the right thing and it didn’t work. Art Williams was going to find a way to help insure others didn’t have to go through the same thing his family did. He was going to find a way to help low-to-middle income families afford insurance while also investing and saving their money. He focused on a different kind of insurance policy called “term life insurance”. Today, Primerica has over 90,000 representatives.
When you start out on your path, you can be sure of one thing. Achieving your goals won’t be easy. There will be small and large successes along the way along with failures and setbacks so daunting you’ll just want to give up. However once you get to the finish line, and if you keep working, you will get there, you’ll look back on the obstacles you overcame and all the effort that went into your success, you’ll agree it was all worth it.
What do you choose to do with your life? Are you pursing a career in sales? In the medical profession? Marketing? Do you want to be working with your hands or do you prefer a behind the scenes job? What you choose doesn’t matter as much as feeling good about your choice.
No matter what it is we’ve chosen, not everyone is going to agree. For instance you might really love numbers and want to work as an accountant, while your mother, the lawyer, believes you could have a fantastic career in law. You know she’s right, you could also make a career for yourself as a lawyer, but it is not what you want to do. You don’t believe that in the long term that will bring you fulfillment.
When a teacher or a counsellor doesn’t agree with our choices, it’s easy to discount their opinion and keep working toward our ambitions. When it’s a parent or friend that disagrees with our decisions it’s harder to stay the course.
You should absolutely listen to the opinions of others and consider their viewpoints, but in the end you have to remember this is your life. To make the most of it, you should be happy with your choices. Sometimes that means standing up to friends and family and saying, No I choose something else.
When you were a kid maybe you wanted to be an astronaut or a mega superstar singing sensation, or an inventor – whatever it was, you were probably really excited about the idea of this amazing career you were going to have. The fabulous things you were going to do with your life, the thrill of everything that lay ahead of you.
Maybe some of you are still on the inventor path, but most are probably working toward something a little more commonplace. No matter what your career choice or the path you’ve chosen to follow, how do you feel about this life you’ve created for yourself?
Are you excited to get up everyday? Do you bring enthusiasm to what you’re doing?
Even if you are not exactly working toward the career of your dreams it is still important to find something to be enthusiastic about every day.
Maybe you like everything about what you’re doing, maybe half and maybe only a little. Maybe your enthusiasm resides in things you do outside of work, with friends for example, or a cause you volunteer with. Whatever it is that you like, focus on that. Make it your reason for jumping out of bed. By focusing on what brings you happiness, the things you don’t like feel less negative and the things you like even more positive.
Your attitude about your life is what will determine the life you are going to lead. Your position, your pay are not the ultimate determiners of your happiness. Your attitude is.
By choosing enthusiasm, by focusing on the bright moments – and there will invariably be bright moments, every day has the potential to lead you to infinity and beyond.
Barack Obama was the first black president of the United States. Before that he was the first black president of the Harvard Law Review. In between those (among other things) he was a civil rights attorney and professor. Obama is a man who has made a career out of working for the good of others, while at the same time elevating himself to the most highly regarded job in the land.
Obama didn’t realize the heights of success he achieved because of the people he knew. Doors were not automatically opened for him when he stepped in front of them. He decided what he wanted to do with his life and then he set to work. He first grabbed everyone’s attention by running for and winning the US senate in 2004. Five years later he was ready for the job he’d been preparing for his whole life. He ran for the presidency and won by a landslide.
Whether you’ve got your sights set on the presidency, a promotion, or your very first job, the advice is the same. Work hard, meet your responsibilities and you will get ahead – no matter what you look like or who you love.
Jim Carrey famously wrote himself a check for ten million dollars for acting services rendered.
When Jim Carrey wrote that check he wasn’t already an established actor on the way to the huge bucks. He was a poor, wannabe actor in Los Angles with thousands of other wannabes all striving for the same big breaks. Jim kept going to auditions, putting himself out there on stand-up stages, failing and succeeding, always with that check in his wallet. Ten years after writing the check, Jim Carrey made that ten million dollars for Dumb And Dumber.
Of course, there was no guarantee that Jim Carrey would actually ever make the ten million dollars he was striving for, but fail or succeed, he never stopped working toward it.
If fear of failure is keeping you from pursuing the things you love, you need to remember you can fail at anything – a thing you love or a thing you don’t really care about. Even if you fail at the thing you love, you spent tons of time doing and working toward a thing you love. That in itself is success!
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do.” -Mark Twain
What’s your biggest regret? It’s a pretty common question among friends who are thinking about the past. We’ve all asked it and been asked it many times. Oftentimes you’ll hear people say they don’t have regrets because everything they’ve done up to that point has made them who they are today. However that may not always be the case. The quote above from Mark Twain quote points out why.
Just because you’re happy with who you are, that doesn’t mean you might not still wish you’d done things differently in the past. When you make an inventory of things you did and didn’t do, Mark Twain suggests that you’re going to be thinking of things you wish you’d done, rather than regretting the things you did.
So how do you get to a point where you can answer that question, about your biggest regret, by honestly stating you have none? Go out there and do things. Don’t look for reasons why not, or listen to people who tell you it can’t be done. Take chances and try new things.
Often when we think of regrets, we think about trips not taken, or opportunities missed because of the cost. Don’t forget to consider Mark Twain’s words in your daily job search as well. Try not to worry about your application being rejected, and apply for your dream jobs.
Cold call companies you want to work for and see if they’re hiring.
The fear of failure can stop you from trying new things. But in twenty years, when you look back on your life, it’ll be the things that you didn’t do that will end up being your answer when your friend asks you what your biggest regret is.