What Will You Stop Trying to Do?

In Star Wars Episode V, The Empire Strikes Back, Luke Skywalker is stuck. His ship, an X-Wing, is sunk in the mud and he’s trying to get it out. Yoda is instructing him in the ways of the Force. It’s when Luke says he’ll try to use the Force to get the X-Wing unstuck that Yoda shares this wisdom with Luke. 

The message is kind of harsh. “Give it a try” is common turn of phrase. But Yoda rebukes Luke for not having more confidence. To try is to see how it goes, to test the waters and see what’s possible. Yoda wants Luke to do away with the thought of trying, and to do something.

Trying, failing and giving up is not doing

When you think about it, there’s a deeper truth to what Yoda is saying. In all things, you either do them, or your don’t. Compare setting out to just try with setting out to do and do again until something is done.  In trying, there is a suggestion that if you don’t attain your goal, oh well, you tried. When Yoda tells Luke that this is only do, or do not, he’s telling him that you either accomplish something or you don’t. Trying, failing and giving up is not doing. Trying, failing and trying again until you succeed, that’s doing something.

Yoda’s message is don’t be satisfied with an attempt. Keep on going until you have done what to set out to do.

Some People Can’t Believe In Themselves Until Someone Believes In Them First

We want you to succeed. We want you to do amazing things. To surpass all of your goals, but we want that for others as well. If you go through your career looking out for only yourself, you’re going to find it’s pretty lonely at the top. If you choose to step on others to get where you want to go, you’ll see that you have fewer and fewer friends willing to help you through the tough spots. Your other choice is to help others along the way

It’s easier to believe in yourself when someone else believes in you first

So today it’s your turn to help someone else out. In the movie Good Will Hunting, Robin Williams played a psychologist who attempted to connect with a young, under-achieving genius played by Matt Damon. Williams’ character, Sean Maguire, shares an important lesson for those looking to help others. Many people simply find it impossible to believe in themselves, until someone else shows belief in them first.

Small acts of encouragement make a huge difference

In Good Will Hunting, it is Sean Maguire’s belief in Will that allows Will to grow and mature. You can take his lesson and share it as well. Let your coworkers know that you believe in them. Give them an encouraging word and tell them you think they are right for the task at hand.

Sometimes, even this small action of encouragement can make a world of difference for someone who is feeling down on themselves.

Learn To Love What You’re Doing By Learning What You Love To Do

Learn To Love What You’re Doing By Learning What You Love To Do

People always say if you love what you’re doing it doesn’t feel like work. That’s all well and good if you know what you love and you’re able to find a job doing it. But what about if there simply isn’t something you absolutely love doing? What then?

 

Figure out what you’re good at

 

Now although it would be great to actually LOVE what you decide to do professionally, that may not always be possible. Let’s say you love skydiving. Well you could probably get a job doing tandem jumps with people who want to learn how to leap out of planes, but it may not be something you want to do as your day job. Rather than focusing strictly on the things you love you can broaden the field by including things you like doing.

 

People enjoy doing what they’re good at

 

In general people enjoy doing things they’re good at. By determining a few things you are good at, you can start to create your job search around those.

 

Figuring out what you’re good at is lifelong quest for some people, while for others it’s like something that was set from the moment of birth. If you are one who doesn’t really feel drawn to anything, then try new things!

 

Trying volunteering in assorted places. Read more books. Put yourself in situations outside of your regular routine. Meet with people you don’t normally associate with. Take classes in things you’d like to know more about.

 

Explore avenues you wouldn’t normally consider

 

Try things and learn things until you find something that makes you happy, and follow in that direction. What makes you happy doesn’t have to lead directly into a job but it can inform it!

 

If you love meeting people, maybe you’d enjoy a job in sales. If you love music, you could be a sound engineer or a manager. Once you pin down the sorts of things that get you excited, figure out the sorts of jobs that could possibly allow you to get paid to do them.

 

Remember, no job has to be a forever job. It’s okay to try a lot of different jobs when you’re young – or even when you’re older. Some people decide to change careers entirely later in life. Sometimes they cash out of high paying careers into more modest jobs because happiness is more important at that point than more accumulated wealth.

 

Find fulfillment in your career

 

Finding what you’re good at and what makes you happy can take years, but it’s worth it. Feeling

fulfilled is so important in your career, and by putting your mind to it, it’s certainly something you can do.

The Benefits of A Change In Direction

The Benefits of A Change In Direction

There’s an old saying, Man plans and God laughs. Meaning that try as we may to make perfect plans, as often as not things will go off in completely different directions. Rarely are we pleased with the unforeseen change in plans. At first.

 

New perspectives

The funny thing is, very often that change in direction takes you somewhere unexpected. It makes you consider things from a different viewpoint. Sometimes it causes you to reassess your original plan. Sometimes you have to adjust the original plan to accommodate new circumstances. Other times the original plan has to be abandoned altogether.

 

Interestingly, whatever steps into the spot emptied by the original plan is often a way better alternative. That’s why those old crafty sayings creators came up with, When a door closes, a window opens.

 

Trust the change of plans

How many times have you heard about someone whose life is dramatically changed because of some annoying circumstance that breaks their plans. For example, Jane is trying to get out of the house in time to catch the bus for her interview. But something gets in the way – the dog escapes out the door and it takes ten minutes to get her pet back. Jane sets out ten minutes late and misses the bus. Then that bus is in an accident. Like an invisible hand reached out of the abyss of time to save Jane.

 

That’s pretty dramatic, but let’s go back to the same example. Jane misses the bus. This time there is no accident, but Jane does miss her job interview. And misses out on the job she was a shoe in for. However, a couple of weeks later a much better opportunity shows up and Jane secures that job — one she would never have gotten if she’d made that bus two weeks earlier.

 

It’s tempting to rail against the whims of time and circumstance that ruin our plans, but the best course of action is usually to sit back and wait. Wait and see what comes in place of the original plan. It may not be where you wanted to go, but it will usually take you where you need to be!

Are You A Wanter Or A Doer?

Are You A Wanter Or A Doer?

In every office you’ll find all kinds of people. The introverts, the extroverts, the technical minded ones, the artistic ones, the list goes on and on. All sorts of different people with different temperaments thrive and get ahead. However, besides the specifics of a person’s personality and skills people can generally be sorted into two distinct categories, the waters and the doers.

 

Wanters expect things to come to them

 

Wanters are the ones who always want to know when they can expect to get a promotion or a raise. They look out for what the company can do for them. When things aren’t working to their satisfaction, they want change, but they don’t necessarily do anything about it. In general wanters are their own number one priority. When five o’clock rolls around, they want to get out of the office and move on the next thing they want to do.

 

Doers create what they want

 

Doers on the other hand, are prepared to do what it takes to get a job done. They don’t ask when they will get a promotion they ask what they can do to get that promotion faster. They realize there is only one way to get ahead and that’s through merit. Not time, not the people they have drinks with not good intentions or talk.

 

If a job isn’t finished when it’s time to go home, a doer will stick around to make sure it gets done. If something isn’t working as well or as efficiently as it should, they don’t just complain about it or work around it, doers address the problem. They find better ways of doing things. If they have to improve themselves then they take the course or they ask us to put them in touch with a mentor.

 

Wanters might talk about how they want to make a six figure income one day. Doers spend every day going that extra mile to ensure they achieve their wants.