Keep Negative Discussions Out of The Interview

Keep Negative Discussions Out of The Interview

You got the interview and it’s going well but the questions have come around to difficult or negative situations. For example, they might ask you to describe a negative situation or person you had to deal with in the past.

 

Keep the soap opera out of it

The employer is asking about difficult situations or people to see how you handle yourself professionally in those situations. They don’t want a long drawn out discussion about the impossible person you had to deal with or all the rotten things that happened in association with the situation.

 

Essentially, they’re looking for the positives buried in the negatives. That means if there are no positives do not use that example! Instead find one where because of your hard work or problem solving or negotiating skills a negative was turned into a positive.

 

Don’t try and skirt the issue

Some people try to find a work around for the question by saying they have never dealt with a negative situation or person. Well no one is going to believe that. Every one of us runs into negatives all the time. If not professionally then personally or on the bus or in a grocery store. If you have been asked a question then find a way to answer it.

 

Before your job interview anticipate this question and come up with a few situations in which you can demonstrate your ability at turning negatives into positives. Describe the situation and the steps you took to resolve it. Remember to highlight your great contributions!

 

Don’t speak badly about your last employer

Even if your last work situation was hell on earth with an impossible to please boss and co-workers that made the thought of coming to work less palatable than the idea of skinny dipping with sharks don’t dwell on the negatives. You probably learned something from the experience. Touch on that quickly then end the discussion with it didn’t work out or we had different expectations. Something brief. Then talk about how excited you are at the prospect of new challenges and move the conversation back to the positives.

Five ways to remain positive and achieve success

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If you want to be successful at what you do, you have to erase all the negative thoughts in your mind and think positive.  Look forward to the future and quit dwelling on the past.

Many entry level junior marketing associates have nothing but positive feelings which has gotten them as far as they are today.

Troy Lewis was a former marketing associate for the Accent Group sales and marketing firm and always surrounded himself with positive content.  This helped him keep his eye on the prize in becoming a marketing manager one day and is now a proud new owner of his own firm, Flex Events, in Columbus, Ohio.

“I follow lots of people who feed positive thoughts on Twitter,” he said. “I’m a firm believer that your thoughts are a reflection of your results. So if you think positive, then you’re going to have positive feelings which will reflect on your actions.  And of course positive actions will lead to positive results.”

Here are five ways you can replace negative and discouraged thoughts into positive ones:

1) Visualize your success and set your goals: Remember the reason why you want to be successful and start forming and implementing a plan.  Set short-term goals that can be achieved in a small amount of time in order to fulfill the long-term goal you desire. You will feel a lot more positive when you know that you can achieve many short-term goals which will motivate you to keep on going until you reach that ultimate goal.

2) Expect obstacles along the way and be patient: “The course of true love never did run smoothly.” – Shakespeare. Although this article has nothing to do with love, the quote is a metaphor for everything you want to successfully achieve in life. Nothing is perfect and you should not be discouraged if you hit a few bumps along the way.  Know that overcoming big and small obstacles will positively shape the person you are and you will have a larger appreciation for the final result.

3) Don’t listen to anyone else but yourself: This is easier said than done because whether we want to admit it or not, many people do care about what others think.  If people discourage you or refuse to believe in you, ignore them. YOU are the one who truly knows yourself and what YOU are capable of. Only YOU can change yourself and determine your own destiny.

4) Tell yourself that you will eventually hit the finish line: “Believe you can and you are halfway there.” – Theodore Roosevelt. It’s better to be in the mindset that you will reach your goal than to be negative and not believe it at all.  Success does not happen overnight.

5) Find a positive in everything: For every one negative obstacle, there is at least one positive outcome that results from it. When something doesn’t happen the way you want, stop and think logically about why it didn’t happen and find a positive that came out of the negative obstacle. Move on from there because there is no point to dwell on something that doesn’t make you happy.  It also won’t push you to go any further.