What do you think about your abilities? Do you think you are a competent person? Do you believe you are capable of achieving your goals and your aspirations? Why do you think what you do? Is it because people have told you that you have certain talents? Is it because people have told you that you don’t?
Who do you listen to?
How would you feel about your potential if a random person on the street told you that you could achieve your goals? What if it was the person who knows you best in the world?
Obviously you’re going to feel better about the opinion of the person who knows you best in the world than a random person on the street.
A matter of perspective
That is precisely why your opinion of yourself and your abilities matters so much. If you feel like you can be successful you will wake up, throw the covers off and face the day with determination and excitement. If you feel like trying is a waste of time then you simply won’t have the energy to try.
Your abilities don’t actually have to factor into the equation either way. Because if you feel like you can be a success, you are going to put yourself in situations where you will learn what you need to succeed. You will practice and succeed and fail and come back to do both again. You will turn yourself into the person you already believe in.
If you feel like you can’t succeed, no amount of talent in the world will make up for your attitude.
Start with the person in the mirror
The opinions of others are great validations, but the first and most important person you need to convince of your worth is the one who looks back at you in the mirror. The opinions of others will come in response.
A New Year is upon us. A chance to reflect on what came before and determine what we will choose to do going forward. An opportunity look at everything in our lives with a renewed perspective. A fresh slate without a word yet written.
To all that potential, to all the opportunities and fresh starts, to the do overs and the do for the very first times, we say bring it on!
Bring on the challenges. Bring on the adventures. Bring on the triumphs and the failures.
2019 -Welcome! We can’t wait!
How do your favorite people treat you?
Think about your favorite teacher in school. If you’ve had a boss you really enjoyed, think about them for a moment. Do you remember what you liked about them? Were they kind, or friendly? Did they treat you as not just a student or employee but someone who could be trusted and shared with? Did they treat you as you could be, rather than what you were? Was your potential cultivated?
In his book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen R. Covey points out how one person can have a tremendous effect on others. Most of us have been in a position where we felt like we didn’t have much wiggle room in our work or assignments. For the most part our teachers have treated us like students. This doesn’t sound so bad, they’re there to teach. But what if, instead of treating you like a student or an employee, your teacher or boss treated you like someone who could run the company some day?
That could be by offering you more responsibility and bigger tasks. Tasks that you can handle and excel at, that will enable you to grow your role. You’ll feel more respected and important, and in turn you’ll start acting with more confidence in your work.
This isn’t just for people who have others working under them either. You can do this for your coworkers as well. Treat your coworkers as people who can both help you and bring new ideas to the table, rather than just people you work with. You may find that they’ll go out of their way to help you in the future.
Not every famous person is billboard famous
There are many potential ways to be famous. There’s fame where everyone knows who you are because you are a superstar singer or actor or athlete or scientist or inventor – spotlight famous.
There’s also famous within smaller spheres. Like being president of a company – making you famous to everyone that works in that location. Dial it down a little and you can make a case for people being famous all the way up or down the ladder within an organization.
You can also be famous within your family or school or on your team for accomplishments over time or a single outstanding moment.
Perfectly wonderful everyday people
There may be many potential opportunities to be famous in one capacity or another, yet the majority of us will not be more than another person in the crowd for the majority of our lives. And we are here to say that’s perfectly wonderful.
Not everyone will be or needs to be famous, or a head turner, or the talk of the town (or dinner table). A person’s worth has nothing to do with how famous or well-known they are. It has everything to do with what they bring to this experience we all share called life.
Purpose and service have nothing to do with fame
The people most deserving of our recognition and our esteem are those that realize no matter how far apart or how different we may all seem from each other, we are essentially one big family. Thus the most important thing we can do is help each other in whatever ways we can. That may be as small as helping someone standing confused at a bank machine terminal. It may be as regular as a weekly volunteer stint at a soup kitchen. It may be through the donation of time or money to causes close to our hearts.
The greatest people among us are not the most famous. They are the ones who share their hearts with others.
Many of us wish we were better. Better at our jobs, or better with certain skills. The surprising thing is, most of the time, we actually are better then we think we are. How often have you thought “I can’t do this” before you’ve even tried. How often have you seen a job ad and said “I’m not qualified” and didn’t even bother to applying? How often in your work day have you thought “This will be good enough” so that you could go home? Negativity keeps you from reaching your potential.
Zig Ziglar was a salesman. He worked at a number of different companies as a sales person and eventually became Vice-President at the Automotive Performance company. Throughout his career he wrote numerous books about sales and selling and worked as a motivational speaker. Even after an injury reduced his short-term memory, Zig Ziglar continued to speak publicly and write books until his passing in 2012.
His books include “See You at the Top”, Zig Ziglar’s Secrets to Closing the Sale”, “Over the Top”, and “Success for Dummies”. With a following of millions, he was quoted often. Forbes put together a list of some of his best quotes.
Thinking positively is the first step in unlocking your potential. You are stronger and smarter than you give yourself credit for. Keeping a positive attitude is essential to believing you can do the job ahead of you. If you have a negative attitude you’re unlikely to push yourself harder and further to see where your limit is. Don’t let negativity bring you down. Be positive and use the abilities you have to their fullest potential.
Find potential and nurture it
With the job market the way it is, most employers will get a huge response to the ads they post. The question isn’t how many responses they get, it’s how many exceptional people are responding. They don’t necessarily look for people with the most experience, but people with the most potential. The ones who are energized by challenge. Who thrive on the potential for success. Who are willing to test the boundaries.
Once they find those people employers want to retain them and, help them grow. Smart managers know, to keep exceptional people they need to keep them motivated with opportunities for training and growth. They need to give them independence and opportunities to prove themselves and they need to recognize their efforts to nurture that potential.
Know when it’s time to let people go
They also know when to cut cords with people who are only there for a paycheck or to pass the time until something better comes along. A team of people is made up of the sum of its parts, and all those parts are influenced by the others. When some people see a lazy, unmotivated person they start to wonder why they try so hard when it’s obvious they can get by with little effort or initiative. Then they too fall into that pattern of behavior. When they see an innovative, striving person, they believe in greater possibilities and push themselves to higher levels. Unmotivated, bored people demoralize everyone else, motivated, striving people energize everyone else. By populating the office with high caliber, top performing people, that sets the culture. It’s the attitude everyone tunes to.
Great people contribute more to the company than they cost both in terms of profit and in terms of what they bring to the office as a whole. You can’t build a strong team if the foundational people are weak. Every person is significant, every person affects others around them. Everyone one is a link in your team-chain and we all know, a chain is only as strong as its weakest link.