One of the biggest stumbling blocks to getting anything done is thinking about it. Actually, thinking about doing a thing isn’t the problem. Problems arise when we start overthinking. When we over-think a thing, it’s like shining a huge magnifying glass on it. The project or event or conversation becomes disproportionately large. Imperfections you wouldn’t otherwise notice take on monumental significance.
Magnifying glass of over-thought
For example, let’s say you want to ask your boss for a raise. You have been with the company for over a year and you believe you’re doing a good job, but you’ve never asked anyone for a raise before. You actually feel lucky to even have a job. The more you think about it, the more you think maybe it’s best to leave well enough alone. You’re managing after all. Your boss isn’t exactly the most approachable person. If she wanted to give you a raise, she would have just given you the raise you think. Plus, you did come in late twice in the last month. It would be better to delay this whole raise question for another month when you feel readier.
In fact, you won’t feel readier in another month. If anything, you’ll feel even less prepared to get in there and ask for that raise because you’ve over-thought yourself into thinking you don’t really want or need that raise at all.
Action breaks stagnation
The best way to get past the wall of thought is to DO something. There are a few things you should do before asking for a raise. One of them is to research dos and don’ts of asking for a raise. Prepare, by determining your worth and writing out your future goals.
Whether you want to ask for a raise, or write the next New York Times best seller, or become a self-made person like Richard Branson, you have to get out of your head and into your life.
If you’re that writer but you don’t have a story for the character that’s been living in your head, start by writing about the character. Join a writing group. Read books from your favourite authors. Create a dedicated time for writing every day and write something – anything. Make a start on the project. Action will lead to more action and soon your project will gain a momentum of its own.