Smile! Your Life is About to Improve

Smile! Your Life is About to Improve

You know the old adage, fake it till you make it? How you’re supposed to live like the person you want to one day become. Carry yourself as you would were you already the successful, established person you aspire to be. Wear the clothes you will wear. Speak with the authority engendered by your many successes. Set the stage for this person you are cultivating to enter – and eventually they will take their place under the spot light.

 

The life changing smile

That whole faking it till you’re making it thing can start with something so easy babies regularly do it. Smile!

 

Whether you are smiling because you are genuinely happy or because you just plastered one on your face, you are flooding your body with feel good chemicals – dopamine, serotonin and endorphins. You automatically feel good and more relaxed.

 

Two way mirror

A smile is like a two-way mirror. In general, you smile because you’re feeling good. At the same time when you smile you actually make yourself feel good. And while you’re going around feeling good you’re also more energetic, which helps you become more productive.

 

A round for the house

Not only are those smiles you’re going around wearing helping you feel good, they’re also bringing smiles and feel good feelings to everyone around you. Smiles are contagious. Smiling faces all around, people are more inclined to like each other.

 

Not only that, according to the article 9 Superpowers of Your Smile  from Psychology Today, smiling can make you seem courteous, likeable and competent. So if there are projects upcoming or opportunities in the offing, the person who is conceived of as likable and competent will most likely be chosen over their less captivating counterparts.

 

So smile and watch your world smile around you!

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Create Inspired Time

Create Inspired Time

Back in the 1930s Somerset Maugham was one of the most popular writers of his generation. Along with all that popularity came big paychecks to the tune of the highest paid author of the time. At least 39 movies have been made based on his works, including Of Human Bondage and The Razor’s Edge. The latest, The Painted Veil premiered in 2006. How is it that some people are so disproportionately and productive and successful compared to the average person?

 

Of course, raw talent is involved. Maugham’s first novel Liza of Lambeth sold out so fast in 1897 that he gave up the medical degree he was just about finished to pursue writing full time. No question Somerset Maugham was outstanding at his craft. But talent alone cannot produce more actual work than many of your contemporaries combined.

 

Unwavering, persistent application

What sets Somerset Maugham and other prolific individuals apart from the pack is unwavering, persistent application to the goal. Regardless of how they feel on a given day. Rain or shine, success or failure the day before, creativity block or creativity flow they get to it. Thomas Edison of I haven’t failed, I just found a thousand ways that won’t work fame, famously said “Genius is one percent inspiration, ninety nine percent perspiration.”

 

Open dedicated time and space to your ambitions

Sometimes inspiration comes out from whatever mysterious cave it lives in. It reaches out a hand and turns on the glorious tap. Other times it gets weighed down by hangers on like procrastination, laziness, fear and myriad other things that keep us from pushing forward. Inspiration cannot be counted on to show up and on its own. It is up to us to march into the darkness and fetch inspired time out for ourselves. We do that by setting up a dedicated time every day to work on your task. Whatever it is.

 

Inspired time

The time you dedicate to your goal whether it be everything involved in preparing yourself for a job search, or writing the next greatest novel or becoming a business coach becomes inspired time when you come for it every day. When you treat the time as precious and inspired no matter how you feel and work within it you will inevitably produce something. It may not be exactly what you’re looking for, but it is something and that something will pave the way for something better. That something better will inspire you to keep going and soon dedicated time becomes inspired time.

Take The Time To Make The Most of Your Next Interview

Take The Time To Make The Most of Your Next Interview

You’ve already got your next interview scheduled. You might think you’ve got what it takes to go there and wing it. If so you’ll most likely be knocked off your perch by others who took the time to prepare.

 

Write down the most relevant things you want to convey at the interview

There are things you want to ensure the person doing the interview knows about you. If you just think about them, there’s a spectacular chance they’ll fly out of your head when you come face to face with the interviewer. If you write them out before hand and read them a few times before the interview, they’ll dance out of your mouth at the appropriate time like choreographed works of art.

 

Take timing into consideration

There’s a thing called decision fatigue that comes over people as the day wears on. Essentially everyone has a finite amount of decision making capacity throughout the day. As the day wears on decisions become harder to make and the quality of decision making deteriorates. When booking your interview do your best to get yourself scheduled earlier in the day when the interviewer is still at their decision making peak.

 

Invest in business cards

You might think the only people who carry business cards around are the ones who already have jobs, but that’s not necessarily the case. Rather than thinking of it as a business card, think of it as a calling card. Something to set you apart from the other candidates. A tangible reminder of who you are and what you’re all about. Include your name and all your contact information and a line or two about what you do. It’s a great way to make an impression and ensure the potential employer remembers who you are!

 

Create a field of positivity around yourself

Do all your homework in advance. Research the questions you think they’ll ask and your answers in the days before. Don’t do any more preparing the day of the interview. Go in knowing you are qualified and experienced and ready to take on new challenges. Ensure you arrive well before the interview, cool, calm and collected. Radiate positivity. Leave them wanting more!

De-stressing About Decision Making

De-stressing About Decision Making

How do you feel about decision making? Does the question What restaurant would you like to go to for tonight fill you with excitement? Or does it turn on your immobilizing fear about making a decision response? The one that leads to a hundred internal questions. What if they don’t like my choice? Does anyone like the things I like? Am I even qualified to choose food for another person? Have I ever been to a restaurant I like? Internal questions that are way out of proportion to the external question you were asked.

 

Not all decisions are created equal

Some of us are all or nothing types. Everything is either pitch black or blinding white. Any decision feels overwhelming because the outcome will be either really RIGHT or devastatingly WRONG. That may be a slight exaggeration, but then again, I fall into the all or nothing category.

 

What anyone who has trouble with decisions needs to remember is, not all decisions carry the same weight. What do you want for dinner? and Should we buy an SUV or a Mini? Are completely different categories of question.  So the first step to taming the decision making monster is figuring out whether or not the decision has any real consequence in the big picture.

 

Weighty decisions vs light ones

If the decision actually will have long lasting consequences then go ahead and create your pros and cons list. Do your research, ask the opinions of others, have in-depth discussions, whatever you need to do to feel confident about your choice.

 

If however, it’s just an everyday choice then give yourself a break and recognize that either way everything will be okay. Take a breath and pick the first thing that feels good to you. That will be good enough!

 

What you really want is probably lurking under all the questions and indecisions that are getting in the way of choosing. Your wants are as valid as the wants of anyone else.

 

Practice makes perfect

Practice decision making doesn’t actually make for perfect decision making – that’s more of the all or nothing thinking. But the more decisions you make, the easier they get to make. You begin to see that the world doesn’t stop on every decision and that for the everyday choices your preferences are valid and good.

The Cultivation of a Champion

The Cultivation of a Champion

Joe Frazier was the undisputed heavyweight champion from 1970 – 1973. Was he a champion before that? Yes absolutely!

 

Aspiring to the ring even as a kid, Joe filled an old burlap sack with rags, leaves corncobs and moss and hung it from a tree. Then, he says, “For the next 6, 7 years, damn near every day I’d hit that heavybag for an hour at a time. I’d wrap my hands with a necktie of my Daddy’s, or a stocking of my Momma’s or sister’s, and get to it.”

 

A champion is created through actions and thoughts

Every hour he spent hitting that heavybag, Joe Frazier was a champion. He was a champion every single day that he got up at the crack of dawn to start working out. Every moment he dedicated to practicing in the ring. All the times he visualized his craft. The times he saw himself winning. Every positive word he said to himself was a championship word. All the encouraging thoughts that beat through the negative ones were championship thoughts.

 

Champion in the making

Each of us is a champion in the making. When we choose to get out of bed and embrace the day rather than giving in to the whispers from our pillows to stay just a little longer. All the times we get back up after falling more times than we care to remember. Every day that we strive to be a little better than the day before is a champion making day.

 

Some of us will be publicly recognized for all our work and our achievements. Acknowledged champions. What about the rest of us? If no one hangs a medal from our necks does that mean our efforts were less commendable? That we are not champions? Absolutely not! As wonderful as it is to have our efforts recognized publicly the most important recognition comes from within. When you’ve completed a project to the best of your ability, or achieved a milestone you’ve been working toward or overcome a difficult situation, recognize yourself for the champion that you are!

 

The Transformative Process of Striving

The Transformative Process of Striving

What is it you want to achieve in life? Do you want to be the owner of your own company? Are you looking to save $100K? Is writing your passion? Do you hope to see yourself in a leadership position? As a manager? Each of us is striving for something.

 

The pressure of end result thinking

Obviously, it’s important to have goals, to be working toward something. However, making that goal the focal point of your life, keeping it in mind 24/7 may actually be detrimental to your efforts.

 

The unrelenting thought of your goal creates a lot of pressure in your life as you focus all your hopes and dreams on an outcome. An outcome with no guarantee. It makes every failure feel worse. Every delay feels longer and more significant than it need be. Others in the same field become competitors rather than allies.

 

The outcome is out of your hands

Absolutely strive. Do your unmitigated best, but don’t become too attached to an outcome exactly as you picture it within the time frame you decided in advance. You have no control over the outcome of any goal or venture.

 

You cannot control the other people who wrote and published a book in the time you spent looking for (and not finding) an agent. Nor do you have any control over other people who reached your financial goals while you were still trying to pay off debt.

 

The only thing you have any control over is you. Your attitude is within your control. How you react to circumstances, positive and negative is in your ballpark. Even if someone is striving for the same things as you, their journey is theirs. Your journey is the only one you should be focusing on.

 

 

No one starts at the top

As you watch other people succeed while you still working so hard to get your goals off the ground, remember they too went through a learning curve. No one simply pops into existence at the finish line. Each person works, strives, fails in their own way and their own time.

 

The way to avoid the pressure cooker is to avoid focusing solely on the goal or other people who have or haven’t reached a similar benchmark. Maintain balance by putting in the required effort everyday – without worrying about the outcome. Get better, stronger, more able for the sake of getting better stronger more able.

 

The only person you should be competing against is yesterday you. You cannot control the outcome, but you can control the process and transform through it.

 

How to Bounce Back from a Layoff

How to Bounce Back from a Layoff

So, you’ve been laid off. Whether you saw it coming or not, the abrupt end of a job can be difficult to navigate. How should you react? Are you allowed to mourn? What does it mean for your future? If you find yourself in this situation, fear not. You’re not alone. In fact, you’re in the company of 1.5 million workers that are let go from their jobs each year.

Take a break

The first step to handle a layoff is to give yourself time to mentally process it. Before launching into a new job search, take the break as an opportunity to consider what you really want to be doing, whether it’s switching industries or pursuing a passion project. When you figure out your next move, spend time carefully updating your resume and tapping into your network to help find your next opportunity.

Check out the infographic from Turbo below for even more tips on how to bounce back from a layoff.

 

How to Bounce Back After You Get Laid Off