Emotional intelligence is an essential skill to have if you want to grow your career. Emotional intelligence is being able to gauge and understand how people are feeling, recognizing your own feelings, and using that knowledge to help support and work with others. It’s become a highly sought after skill in the work force.
So now that you know what it is, how can you go about improving it?
Stay Cool, Literally
Cooler temperatures help reduce your anxiety levels. If you feel yourself getting stressed or anxious in a discussion or argument, take a moment to splash some cold water on your face or take a walk outside. Being able to keep yourself from losing it is a huge part of emotional intelligence. Know what topics get under your skin and work to address that. Also take note of what topics seem to rile others up, and find a better way to approach them.
Meet New People
Whether you’re an introvert or extrovert, expanding your network of friends and relationships will help you identify with a wider set of people. Don’t aim to meet people who have the same background and beliefs as yourself either. A key part of emotional intelligence is being able to empathize with a wide variety of feelings. The more diverse your network is, the more points of view you’ll be able to understand and incorporate into your emotional intelligence.
Know Yourself
Ask friends and people who are close to you to speak truth into your life about who you are. The more you know about yourself, the more you’ll understand what kind of effect you have on others. Emotional intelligence isn’t just about recognizing how others are feeling, but also about how you’re feeling and understanding why. Be willing to critique yourself and make changes when necessary.
Recognize Reactions
When someone tries to give you constructive criticism, do you immediately get defensive? People’s reactions are often their first emotional response to something, before they’ve had time to process. Learn to recognize these reactions and adjust your approach accordingly. If you notice someone is constantly reacting defensively, soften your approach, or be clear that you’re bringing up a good thing. If someone quickly reacts with nonchalance, make sure you are impressing upon them the seriousness of the issue.